A friendly acquaintance (who recently revealed she was pregnant on Facebook) just posted yesterday that she had the 19-week ultrasound and found out it's a boy. That's all. Nothing about the health. She had several posts leading up to it where she hosted a "contest" to see who could guess the gender. Incidentally, this is a woman who used to be a better friend of mine, and who was a huge support when we lost Zach.
This drives me. Absolutly. Nuts. What about the rest of it? Is the baby healthy? I actually wrote a commment and then erased it: "I'm glad to hear the baby is healthy!" I erased because I thought it sounded kind of snarky, and she doesn't deserve that. Plus, she never actually said the baby is healthy.
People, IT IS NOT A GENDER ULTRASOUND! The purpose of the u/s is to see if all the important organs are present and healthy. And yes, often you can see genitals. I just wish people would acknowledge the other part of the ultrasound.
Am I going to be this sensitive on this issue for the rest of my life?
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Ironically, I don't think she'd see your comment as snarky at all. In fact, it would probably go right over her head. Sigh. You probably will be sensitive to this issue forever. I'm sorry.
Yes, you will be sensitive to this issue forever, and I also agree that the comment was not really that snarky. But again, I am also someone who will also never again see the "big" ultrasound as something that often reveals the boy/girl issue. It is ALWAYS the healthy issue first and foremost now. (I have an acquaintance whose first baby also had heart defects - and passed at 2 months old - who is eagerly - and very nervously - awaiting to see if the little one she is presently carrying is heart-healthy and otherwise healthy. It does not matter the sex of the baby.
I hear you, I hear you, I totally and utterly HEAR and get where you are coming from.
I'm just as sensitive and it upsets me just as much to hear the result of the 'big' ultrasound is a sex.
I have never once enjoyed my 'big' ultrasound until I hear the anatomy is normal.
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Just wanted to let you know I have been thinking about you....Hope all is well. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers!!
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