Grr

A friendly acquaintance (who recently revealed she was pregnant on Facebook) just posted yesterday that she had the 19-week ultrasound and found out it's a boy. That's all. Nothing about the health. She had several posts leading up to it where she hosted a "contest" to see who could guess the gender. Incidentally, this is a woman who used to be a better friend of mine, and who was a huge support when we lost Zach.

This drives me. Absolutly. Nuts. What about the rest of it? Is the baby healthy? I actually wrote a commment and then erased it: "I'm glad to hear the baby is healthy!" I erased because I thought it sounded kind of snarky, and she doesn't deserve that. Plus, she never actually said the baby is healthy.

People, IT IS NOT A GENDER ULTRASOUND! The purpose of the u/s is to see if all the important organs are present and healthy. And yes, often you can see genitals. I just wish people would acknowledge the other part of the ultrasound.

Am I going to be this sensitive on this issue for the rest of my life?

Yay!

I am woefully late with this post. My only excuse is that I have spent most of the past week either lying down, wishing I were lying down, or reading The Hunger Games.

My u/s on Thursday was successful--he found a heartbeat. My due date is Sept. 29. I'm relieved, but I know this is just one step in the process. I am very aware that I could have a baby that's growing perfectly fine, and a belly that's slowly rounding--yet I could find out that my baby is missing vital organs. (It has been known to happen--women have had more than one baby with bilateral renal agenesis.)

Don't think that I'm all doom and gloom; I'm not. I'm thrilled that everything is going along swimmingly, and if it weren't for the extreme exhaustion, the sudden moodiness (I went off on my friend a couple of days ago) and the depressing winter weather, I'd be walking on air. We've also started telling a few family members and close friends, which is a bit of a load off my back.

For now, I'm just looking forward to showing a bit more so I can start wearing maternity clothes again. The good news is, because my due date is just three days before Tyler's due date, I'll be using the same seasons of maternity clothes.

5w1d

It's amazing how much you can forget in four years.

For example, I completely forgot about the fact that after you get a positive pregnancy test (and good betas), it's another waiting game. Of course it's a waiting game--I mean, isn't that the whole point of pregnancy? I don't know whether I was expecting fireworks or something, but I'm finding myself incredibly, incredibly impatient. Four years ago, I was mired in grief over Zach when I first got pregnant with Tyler, so I was perfectly fine with pretending I wasn't pregnant. This time, I am literally counting the days until our heartbeat ultrasound (it's 13 now).

Yes, part of it is wanting to make sure the baby is OK. But another part of it is wanting to tell the world.

Well, most of the world. My friend just confided in me in an e-mail last night that she has been trying since September, and is getting frustrated. She wants to talk to me because I, presumably, am still in the trenches, just like her. When we get together next week, I'm going to have to be very careful with what I say. It is certainly not the right time to tell her I'm pregnant, but I don't want to outright lie, either.

Then there's this other, nagging little thing: Besides lots of "stretching" feelings in my uterus (when Tyler pounces on me, I have to gasp), I haven't had any symptoms. No nausea, no exhaustion. I feel perfectly, absolutely fine. One part of me knows that every pregnancy is different, but the negative part of me says, "If you aren't tired by now, does this mean there's something wrong with the baby?"

Gotta love the old crazy coming back...

The results are in

And so it is that on a cold, snowy January morning, I have a positive pee stick sitting in my bathroom wastebasket.

Yep, I'm pregnant. For now, at least.

That's all I have to say about that.

IUI #1

On Tuesday, I took an OPK test and got a negative. After getting a positive on Wednesday (CD 16, for what it's worth), I called the clinic and set up an appt. for an IUI Thursday morning. Then, Wednesday night at about 10:30 p.m., I started experiencing enough cramping that I had to take an Advil. Sure enough, when I took my temp Thursday morning, it was just high enough to make me wonder whether I had already ovulated.

See, I had elected not to do an u/s this first time, because OPKs have been working so well for me. But I was so paranoid I requested an u/s before my IUI at 10:45 a.m. on Thursday. I was right--I had already ovulated. The doctor told me the IUI could still work 12-24 hours after I ovulated, and I was at 12 1/2 hours, so I went ahead with it. After all, a 102 million sperm count is nothing to scoff at! But I have to laugh at the fact that my first $1300 IUI may very well be a bust because I was too late. It figures.

Whoa

After nearly 5 years of being in the infertility blogosphere, I am about to make my first foray into ART.

Today is CD1, and I have just completed my 3rd letrozole cycle. Which came after 6 months of waiting for my thyroid to cooperate, which came after 4 months of trying the old-fashioned way. Today, Dr. Hot just gave me the go-ahead to do IUI with letrozole this cycle.

I'm half freaked out and half really, really excited.

I'm not sure why I'm excited. IUI doesn't have spectacularly high success rates. But even if I don't get pregnant this way, it brings me that much closer to IVF. And that truly does freak me out for a variety of reasons:
1. It's an incredible amount of money (my insurance doesn't cover a penny).
2. It's an incredible amount of shots.
3. I'm pretty sure I won't sleep a wink for the entire month.

So here we go. Wheee.

Crap

I don't swear often, but there's only one word for all this infertility stuff--mindfuck.

Despite all my "foolproof" symptoms, I have two failed pregnancy tests and a period (that came on Saturday) to prove I was a fool. Oh well. Honestly, the waiting is the hard part. I can deal with failure more than the waiting...the night before I was going to test (on CD13), I couldn't sleep. Yes, I was that keyed.

So, we begin Round 3 on letrozole. I've been counting the months, trying to guess how many cycles my doctor will let me go through (with sex alone, and then with IUI), and I figure that if it comes to this, I would probably be doing IVF by next summer. Not that I'm there yet, but I have to be planning for failure in order not to be too surprised by it.